I have just been reading this
http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2015/07/30/the-curse-of-the-celebrity-nanny.html
about how us nannies are on the prowl for the fathers of the kids we look after – wives and girlfriends beware! (apparently). I wonder if anyone really takes thought to the nanny’s side on this?!
The fact that a nanny can be seen as a homewrecker is the polar opposite of how she is meant to be seen, a facilitator in the home making! It is a fact that it takes two to tango so why is it that it is the nanny who is under suspicion? Has anyone taken into account the absolute arrogance of some men?
Let me tell you a tale or two!
First of all let me tell you of my experience with the older man. I say the older man as he was 25 years my senior. I had a serious boyfriend at the time which this family had MET! We spent a lot of time at their pool and I often felt like he was watching me. He would never go in the water unless I was in there and all of a sudden would turn from the business minded I have no time for my kids man to superdad, the craziest, funniest dad around! About 4 months into the job he propositioned me. I was dumbstruck. First of all I was kind of annoyed! I was a slim, 28 year old girl with a hot guy on my arm. This man was beer bellied, and old enough to be my father. I decided to take it as a joke, but when two weeks later he put he hand on my ass he got a slap around the face. Instant reaction I couldn’t help it. But that along with the , line of I will tell your wife seemed to nip it in the bud.
Another family I temped for, the husband was about ten years older than me. Initially I thought he didn’t like me or just didn’t want to acknowledge my existence. I thought he bloody rude, but thought I am only here for a week with them, so I’ll suck it up. This behaviour went on til the last day of the trip when I had to drive with him and his children to an airport hotel so they could catch as flight the next day. The wife was at home. We checked in, got the kids into bed and I said goodnight. Half an hour later I get a call to my room asking me if I could pop over to his room quickly. Sure I said. I knocked and he opened the door. I expected him to say can you prepare this, that and the other for tomorrow but no! He said he would like me to drink a bottle of chammpagne with me to say thank you for my help. Warning signals started going off in my head – this guy had not spoken to me or looked at me for a week unless it was absolutely necessary. I said I’m tired we have a long day tomorrow, he persisted. I then got the line me and my wife aren’t happy, a pleading, puppy dog look in his eye. I told him that has nothing to do with me and goodnight. I left and went back to my room where he texted me asking me if I was sure I didn’t want to join him! I didn’t but needless to say the next day was AWKWARD!!!!
This has only happened to me twice in working for about 20 families and this number is higher than most. So it hardly ever happens! However when it does happen I would put money down that 90% of the time, good old pops is the instigator!
Fellow nannies, wives, partners, girlfriends…let me know if you have experienced anything similar. Funny tales much appreciated!
K x
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